This Multigenerational Household Thrives
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Susan Geffen’s Featured Article from her e-Newsletter Magazine, Nov 2012

Multigenerational Households

According to U.S. Census Bureau, the number of multigenerational households has grown by 60% since 1990.  

 The Pew Research Center has reported that one in eight Americans between the ages of 40 and 60 is now caring for a parent at home. This is partly attributable to the recent economic downturn that has affected both baby boomers that see failing pensions and higher healthcare costs as well as college graduates who cannot afford their student debt and housing.  

 There are cultural reasons for this demographic trend as well. There is an increase in the numbers of Latino and Asian households in the United States - both native-born and immigrant, who have been culturally indoctrinated into traditions of caring for young and old in multigenerational settings.

And then there is love. In this month's video (above), you have an opportunity to see a family, ages 8-80 that are doing so for love; the pure and beautifully simple desire to be in it together. Each member of this family in their own way expressed that living to together has enhanced family bonds and relationships. Importantly, studies that have demonstrated that older adults who engage with children have numerous positive outcomes, including decreased depression, better health, and a renewed sense of purpose. 

 (Click here to see the rest of this article) 

 

Jeanne Gormick
Is God Losing Our Kids?
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A while ago my Pastor focused on “A Vision for Families”.He pointed out that the people closest to our children, those who interact with them daily, have the greatest impact on them. Is that you or have you relinquished your childrearing to others? I believe so firmly that children need at least one parent available on a moment by moment basis if it’s at all possible.

You have probably had a good opportunity to be with your kids during the current Covid 19 isolation. And, admittedly, because this was forced upon you and you lacked the preparation for what would come; it has not been easy! I’m sure there have been days that you and your children had some tough times spending so much time together. But, I imagine you have also had some wonderful days getting to know each other better.

For years I have been passionate about making it possible for parents to choose to be stay at home parents (SAHP).  My husband and I did it ourselves. Now, our grandchildren have all been raised by a SAHP. Our kids saw the value in this and they made the sacrifices needed to accomplish it as goal for their families.

I pray you have not lost jobs during the shutdown or experienced financial consequences, but maybe this makes it the perfect time to consider all your options as we move toward the workplace once again. Perhaps, even if there has been a job loss, this makes it the perfect time to consider SAHP on a permanent basis.

Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood was written with tears of joy and sadness, sprinkled with happy smiles as I share heartwarming and humorous times making it as fun to read as it is informative. It can help you decide if this is possible for your own family. Of course, you need to find ways to make money, but learning to save money is the best way to start. This valuable resource will open your eyes to the real costs of having a dual income family where both parents have full time careers outside their home. It will introduce you to methods of cutting expenses, as well as, other information related to parenting,  money saving techniques and homebased business creation. For the first time parents have what they need to plan and change their families for the better – all in one place. This Bibically-based book effectively ties everything together to encourage families to prepare for a new day, a new season – a new normal.

Now is the time…

The Bible tells us to teach our children to love God with all their hearts (Deut. 6:5-7), which begs the question who is introducing your kids to their Maker?  Children need to be taught how to obey God,  because, as my Pastor reminded us, “our children’s rebellious hearts need to be softened toward God.”

So, another question emerges. Are those who care for your children doing this?

Honestly, I believe the only way parents can do this is to have one loving parent at home 24/7. Please, at least consider it, for your family.

Jeanne Gormick
Envision Starting a Successful Small or Homebased Business

Many women get started in business by accident, without a plan.  Perhaps, you make a piece of jewelry and all your friends want you to make one for them and they offer to pay you for your creation. You experiment with more pieces and suddenly everyone seems to want your jewelry.  You love making jewelry and you excitedly start your business.

While you might make money doing this, at some point your business may fail because it wasn’t started as a business in the first place.

Successful businesses start with planning, but unless you are looking for a business loan you probably don’t need a huge, formal business plan.  But, you do need a plan of some sort!

You need something to guide you through your daily activities to avoid stress, move your business forward and continue to have fun doing it.

A quick read of my January 21, 2021 blog Goal Setting for 2021 Jeanne Gormick could be helpful.

I also recommend a call to your local Small Business Administration office. They offer free seminars and services to increase your chances of success.

To get you started on the right foot, the following is an excerpt from my book See Dick and Jane Start a Homebased Business.

 (Chapter 1)

See Dick and Jane Do Their Homework...

Dick and Jane want to sell Widgets. See Jane file the “fictitious name statement."

See Dick call the city to get the business license. Dick and Jane are married.  They decide to run their business as sole proprietors.

They want to save money, so they will use a home office.

 …See Dick and Jane talk to their insurance professional about liability insurance and get a rider on their homeowner policy to cover the business equipment.

See Dick and Jane talk to their tax, legal and banking professionals.

…See Dick and Jane write down their goals.  If they don't have goals, they won't know where they are going.  They need to know where they are going. …See Dick and Jane decide important business goals to make their family better.

 …See Dick get a book to help them understand a business plan.  See Dick and Jane have a written business plan.

To Continue Reading See Dick and Jane Start A Homebased Business

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Jeanne Gormick
What Comes Next: Back to Child Care Following Shelter-in-Place

Apr 28, 2020

By Rebecca Parlakian Senior Director of Programs 202 857-2976 rparlakian@zerotothree.org

If you imagine this change may be harder for your child after months of “just you,” you are probably right.

Your young child has just had months of time with you at home. Most likely, there have been no other caregivers outside of your own family, due to shelter-in-place guidelines. But now—as communities begin to re-open—you may be facing a major transition for your family: Heading back to child care. If you imagine this change may be harder for your child after months of “just you,” you are probably right.

Here are some tips for managing the preschool transition post-COVID:

Remember that this is not just a regular transition back to school. Your family went through a tough time. You managed a lot of stressors—balancing work and family demands, financial concerns, worries about illness. Even very young children sense when there is stress in the household. Your child has managed this period of confusing changes and now they are encountering yet another big transition—going back to child care. Stress adds up and our resilience can be run down over time. Your sensitivity and patience are key ingredients for helping your child make a successful move back to their care setting.

Your worries are important. As communities re-open, you may have concerns about the safety of your child’s child care program. Many parents are feeling this way. Talk to your child’s teacher and the program director to learn what procedures they are using to keep children safe and healthy.

Use pretend play to explore the routines of preschool or child care with your toddler. Take turns being the parent, child, and teacher. Act out common daily routines, like saying good-bye to mommy and/or daddy, taking off your coat, singing songs, reading stories, having Circle Time, and playing outside.

Read books about child care. If you’re able to access a public library (or online stories), choose a few titles about going to preschool or child care. Talk about the story and how the characters are feeling. Ask how your child is feeling (excited, scared, worried, happy?). Check out titles like The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn, I Love You All Day Long by Francesca Rusackas, Bye-Bye Time by Elizabeth Verdick, or Llama Llama Misses Mama by Anna Dewdney.

Listen to your child’s worries. It’s tempting to quickly reassure your child and move on, but when you listen and respond to children’s worries, they feel safe and supported. Explain that starting something new can bring up worries and questions and that lots of people feel that way. It can also be helpful to share a time when you started something new and how you felt.

Suggest coping strategies. When you allow your child to share her worries, you can help her think through how to deal with them. For example, if she is worried about missing you, the two of you can make a book of family photos to keep in her cubby and look at when she is lonely.

Notice nonverbal messages. Most 2- and 3-year-olds are not able to use language to fully explain how they are feeling. Your child may “act out” his worry by clinging, becoming withdrawn or more fussy, or by being more aggressive. Another common reaction is for children to begin using more “baby-like” behaviors. For example, if your child is fully potty trained, he may start have toileting accidents. He may ask that you feed or dress him even though he can do these things by himself.

It’s natural to be frustrated by this return-to-baby behavior. But by meeting your child’s need for nurturing with love and patience, you’ll find they soon return to their “big kid” behavior. Remember that your child is facing—and managing—a big change in their life. They may need more support from you during this transition.

Get back into the routines of bedtimes and waking times. The transition to child care is easier when you are not also dealing with an tired, cranky little one. In the week before your return to your child’s program, begin to use “school night” bedtimes and wake-up times so that everyone can get back into the child care routine.

When your child starts back, ask whether there is a new drop-off routine. Because of new health screening and sanitizing requirements, you may not be able to stay with your child to help them transition during morning drop-off. Talk to your provider about new drop-off procedures and ask if it will be possible to have a teacher stay with your child to help them with the separation.

Consider letting your child bring a special object from home. Does your child have a favorite stuffed animal or blanket that offers comfort? Check with your child care program to confirm your child can bring this object from home. A favorite teddy bear can ease the transition when you say good-bye at drop-off. A family photo in your child’s cubby can also be comforting.

Talk with your child’s teacher about how you soothe your child. When teachers use similar comfort methods, babies and toddlers feel more safe and “at-home” in the child care setting.

Keep your tone positive and upbeat. Children pick up on the reactions of the trusted adults in their lives. So try not to look worried or sad, and don’t linger too long when it’s time to go. Say a quick, upbeat good-bye and reassure your child that all will be well.

Think about creating a special good-bye routine. For example, you can give your child a kiss on the palm to “hold” all day long. Or, the two of you can sing a special song together before you leave. Good-bye routines are comforting to children and help them understand and prepare for what will happen next.

This hasn’t been an easy few months, but the return to child care is one sign that life is going back to (a new) normal. Supporting your child through this process—staying patient and loving even in the face of challenging behaviors—is a loving way to take that next step, together.

Looking for more information? Visit  zerotothree.org/coronavirus for our latest resources and updates for families.

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Jeanne Gormick
Aging Senior Issues Can Devastate Families, Careers and Business

Our family experienced this and I knew it was important to openly share our story, so I am beginning a series of articles explaining what we went through and how we survived the journey...

Over the years I have helped families understand and navigate the difficulties they face as loved ones age and I continue to do so. There are numerous resources and solutions available, which I freely share. I have  highlighted services we used.

My two brothers and I grew up outside of New York City and our parents retired to an upstate farm. Our youngest brother, Jon, brain damaged by his DPT shot, was moved to a nearby group home.

Our parents enjoyed their retirement years in peace and tranquility.

As our California family grew, we visited periodically.  Our kids loved driving on the tractor, seeing the cows being milked and swinging on the rope in the barn.

Life was good for all of us.

That all changed when my 87 year-old mother fell and broke her hip 2 days before daughter, Julie, and I were scheduled to visit. 

 Upon our arrival we began cooking meals, cleaning and making daily visits to Mom in the hospital, where she was in good spirits and healing well.

Before we left I arranged for a local caregiving company to provide light housekeeping services and Meals on Wheels to deliver meals.

About 2 years later our entire family visited them.  We stayed in a beautiful B & B, where we held joint 89 and 90th birthdays for our parents.

But we had no idea how much of a blessing this would become, when just 8 months later we lost Mom to a stroke.

Her death began a devastating chain of events for all of us…

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Jeanne Gormick
Does Online Dating Leave You Feeling Cold and Empty?

My experience with online dating left me frustrated and upset, too.  That is UNTIL I stumbled upon Virtual Speed Dating!

Covid-19 has changed things, including dating.

My late husband and I met in high school and had a great, long lasting marriage.

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Throughout our marriage, we had always wanted to help singles meet the loves of their lives, so back in the day we created a game show for singles called Icebreakers©.

Now, discovering Virtual Speed Dating has changed my whole opinion of 21st Century Covid-19 dating.

 It allowed me to see my own potential dates within a safe distance, in a safe spot from my own home! I met new people and bypassed the conventional chit-chat found in initial texting and phone calls…

 And I met someone!

I had so much fun that as a Facilitator of Groups, I have decided to begin hosting my own Speed Dating sessions for Orange County (CA) for Christian Singles.  I’m going to start with the 50 and over crowd.

Please check us out and plan to join us if finding new, genuine connections for friendship, romance or business within the Orange County (CA) Christian Single community sounds exciting to you.

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Check us out on Eventbrite: 

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Goal Setting
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  1. Worthwhile Goals: Examples might be - Start a Business, Debt Reduction, Go Back to School.  These are worthwhile goals.

  2. Achievable Goals: Goals that can be targeted and easily accomplished can be achieved.

  3. Be Specific:  How are you going to do the goal? Example:  I am going to “lose weight”  by “eating whole foods and exercising”.

  4. Commit to Your Goals: Dedicate yourself to the goal. Write it down. Be persistent.

  5. Make Your Goal Public: Put it on Social Media. Tell your friends. This leads to accountability. This is what my Groups of Encouragement (GOE) do for the members. Please check it out: https://www.eventbrite.com/d/online/jeanne-gormick  

  6. Prioritize Your Goals: Don’t choose too many.  No more than 3 at a time.

  7. Make Your Goals Real to You: A Vision Board will help. (See mine above.) Put a date to it. Share your success as you accomplish each goal. Make notes of what you are going to do, when you have achieved the goal.

  8. Set Deadlines to Accomplish Your Goals: Create a Plan of Action.

  9. Evaluate Your Goals: How are you going to overcome obstacles for the next time?

  10. Reward Yourself for Accomplishments:  Take the time to celebrate your success.

Thank you, Charles Muiruri (President of Christian Business Partners, Fontana, CA) for presenting today!

Jeanne Gormick
Mentoring Mom Opening Christ-centered Mom Friends Groups©
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Below is a great article by Careen Strange explaining why Stay at Home Moms (SAHM) need the help and support of a Mentor Mom. What better way to get the support of both a Mentor Mom Facilitator and a group of Mom Friends than to join a virtual group directly addressing the needs of stressed out, frustrated Christian Moms. Find through Eventbrite Evite “Christ-centered Mom Friends Groups© Led By a Mentor Mom”.

- Jeanne

 

Finding a Mentoring Mom

September 24, 2019 by Careen Strange Family Tips

 When I was a stay-at-home mom (SAHM) with five little boys, I yearned for an older woman to talk to—someone who had walked the path ahead of me. I had a close relationship with both my mother and mother-in-law, but sometimes I needed a neutral voice to speak to my concerns. My husband and I were only children, so the chaos of rearing five children under age 10 was new to them as well as to me.

I never did find that perfect mentor. I read a few books which proved to be very helpful and opened my eyes to some things but for the most part, my learning resulted from on-the-job-training.

Women today have a plethora of resources, but mothers often experience a feeling of aloneness. It doesn’t simply go away by reading a blog or listening to a podcast.  What moms need is another woman who has walked the path to come alongside them and be their needed coach/encourager. 

So the question is, how does a young mother find that elusive older woman?

Sometimes it seems hard to connect with the right person, especially if you’re living in a new area. Where do you look? How do you start a relationship, especially when you might not know a ton of people? These suggestions might help.

Find a Mothers’ Group in your area.

Organizations such as Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPs) have been in existence for a number of years, and are a wonderful place to meet other mothers. In my own MOPs group, there is more emphasis lately on finding older women to connect as mentors with younger moms. In the first meeting of our local chapter, there were several older moms who were there for that purpose!

Begin with the obvious: Find someone you like.

We are naturally drawn to certain temperaments and personalities. Find a person you look forward to being with.

Make sure her family life is one you’d like to emulate.

Does her relationship with her family members exemplify love, honor, respect—in short, do you want to be where she is when you reach her age?

Seek someone who has had real-life experience.

Naturally, moms seek answers and validation from other mothers. The problem is, they are usually in the same season of life, and this can result in comparing themselves to one another. Sharing “mom-hacks” and other tips might be good, but hearing from someone who has proven herself in real life is essential.

Find a mother who will be honest with you.

You’re not looking for someone who simply commiserates with you. You want someone who is willing to point out blind spots for you and is willing to speak the truth in love. Allow her to do that.

Don’t hesitate to ask her to meet with you.

In the old days, young women probably bonded with the older generation as they stitched quilts or shelled peas. Motherhood is inherently lonely—a fact a woman doesn’t realize until she becomes a mother. Ironically, when our children grow up and leave the nest, a different kind of loneliness can set in.  Connecting women in these two seasons can be life-giving for both generations.

Realize you might meet a need for her, as well.

To reiterate the previous point: sometimes a “retired” mother might feel she has served, worked, loved, and sacrificed all those years and is full of good advice, but nobody cares. You might do her a great favor by asking her to share her wisdom with you.

Enjoy the relationship!

It will likely last for years to come. Next, to rearing my own family, my personal experience as a mentor to young mothers has been my most fulfilling role. The years slipped by quickly and now I’m still in touch with some of the younger mothers who now have grown children of their own, and they, in turn, are reaching out to those coming behind them. 

Maya Angelou expressed it best when she said…  

Some of the things I know, I know only because older women have told me their secrets.

I have lived and am living long so that I can tell my secrets to younger women.

That’s the reason we women go on improving.

A note about the author:

Careen Strange is the author of Hello, Young Mothers, an honest and comical look at the realities of day-to-day motherhood. She and her husband, Burt, have been married 50 years, raised five sons, and are now grandparents to 11 grandchildren. To learn more about Careen and her work with young mothers, visit careenstrange.com. 

 

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Triple Dip on Discounts and Cash Back Deals Just in Time for Christmas
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Start by using a credit card that gives you air mileage or cash back.

Then explore all the different coupons and other discount apps that are available.

This article will help you do this  “12 of the Best Cash-Back Apps of 2020”. Here’s the link to that: https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/finance/cash-back-apps

Lastly go to https://www.truvvi.com/invite/7JKK89 to explore this great new way to get cash back (up to 10% back!).  You simply pay for the items through this app.  This is different from others in that you go through Truvii to pay rather than sending them a copy of the receipt.

So, as you plan your holiday shopping this year, figure out the store with a discount on the gifts you want to buy.  Check to see if the store is listed on the Truvii site.  If the store is listed you are good!  Pay with a cash back credit card, get the discount from the store and one of the highest cash back programs through Truvii.

It takes a little time, but I have found it’s really worth the time to get the savings.

Jeanne Gormick
All Of a Sudden I Need to Watch MY Pennies!
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Due to Covid-19, I was placed on an unpaid Leave Of Absence from my job, so I had to go onto a new emergency budget and apply things I wrote in Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood. https://youtu.be/hyYKXwhxtNQ

 I recently connected with Andrea Roseli (https://www.aroseli@primerica.com) who usually helps working families with investing for their future and getting out of debt. But in our conversation, she helped me further understand how to utilize app coupons and refund offers. She maximizes Target Circle Offers, so I decided to give it a try.

 Families can save much more than a single person can, but I needed to save in any way I could.   I am only spending money on food and essentials, so I focused on offers like 5% on storewide purchases; $10 off specific  food and beverage purchase; 15% off other grocery items; $.35 off peanut butter;  25% off lasagna; 30% off cranberry juice; etc.

I prepared my grocery list using their specials on only things I needed.  I stayed away from things I don’t need like ice cream and chips no matter how tempting they were. For the most part I also avoid processed foods, which aren’t healthy anyway.  Unfortunately, these are the most frequently discounted items.

After creating my grocery list, I went to the Ibotta App. This one of many Apps that provides money back for purchases made at the various stores that they represent.

So I went to the Target tab and looked through all the food and beverage items listed.  I focused on things like a turkey ($2.00 back); milk ($.10 back); butter ($.50); cheese ($.25); ground pork ($.10); avocados ($.75); fresh chicken ($1.25); chicken broth ($1.00); toilet paper ($.25); etc.

When I visited Target, I carefully compared an item with a discount or an item with a cash back offer to be sure that the store brand wasn’t cheaper even without the special offers.

Even for a single person I was able to save about $6.20 in discounts and $4.35 on cash back. That is $10.55 which I saved.

Grocery stores make it worth a bit of time in research too.  Be sure you register as a preferred customer to get deals at checkout. For instance, I just saved $25.39 on a $95.43 grocery bill.

Here’s a word of advice on cash back for purchases at big box stores. I just purchased a box of 6 packs of crackers for $9.49. I had a cash back offer of $1.00 per pack up to 5 packs. You sometimes have to scan the receipt and the bar codes on the packages. So I made sure to take out each pack of crackers up to 5 and scanned each individually. So I will get $5.00 back and I only paid $9.49.  That means I got 6 packs of crackers for the price of one pack at the grocery store.

So, imagine how much you can save buying for more than just one person.

Jeanne Gormick
Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood! - Spending (Buying) Like the Rich Do…

The following is an excerpt from the book Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood! by V. Jeanne Gormick.

The Rich Spend Wisely...So Can You:  Before we get judged as grungy, second hand people, let me share some comments from an article in the Los Angeles Times.  Rose Apodaca in her "Comeback Castoffs" explains, "Filling homes with used goods is nothing new.  But instead of focusing on furniture 100-plus years old and designated antique, the Yokoyamas and Dyson are among those who find high style in a melange of knickknacks, pictures, toys and furniture only a few decades old.  The recycling revolution and tight purse strings of the 90's have helped fuel these 'early thrift shop' interiors that are as unconventional as they are comfortable, as quirky as they are endearing.  Dyson and the Yokoyamas don't discount the financial advantages of their eclectic decorating styles, but their decisions to fill their homes with secondhand finds also is rooted in the fascination with living among furnishings that are different, rare and have a little history--albeit often unknown to them."

Are you getting a little more comfortable now?  This was in the prestigious Los Angeles Times, after all.

The article continues, "'Easy and cheap' is how he now describes his interior theme.  'People get so over concerned with brand names, but a lot of basic stuff is better made,' he said.  'It's American made.  Now I'm almost obsessed with buying old."18 (And another one bites the dust of the second-hand shop!)

Some of Our Unbelievable Buys...We've accumulated many secondhand treasures over the years, but I realized we might be in trouble, when Tim looked around our living room and asked me if anything in the room had been purchased new.  It took me a minute, but some of the stereo equipment was the first purchase we'd made as a married couple, (before we got hooked and realized what a waste of money it was to buy anything new).

Over the years we've gotten antiques, camping equipment, desert bikes, radio controlled cars, a tile cutter for $1, office supplies, even a $500 Cadillac for our daughter (she didn't like it, so we sold it for $1,000), skis and winter clothing; furniture; a freezer; toys; how about a near-new lawn mower for only $5!  Some of the greatest things we've gotten include a ring Cal fell in love with.  It cost him 50c.  It is the ugliest, big fat ring I've ever seen!  But, as we discovered later, he made a true investment with only 50c.  We cleaned it up and found an antique rose gold and brass Spanish or Mexican family crest ring.  Thank goodness Cal didn't wear it, but I still have it as a symbol of our "saling" conquests.  We were told it's worth at least a couple of hundred dollars.  A neat benefit of purchasing these things is that when we are finished with them, we can usually sell them for about the same (and sometimes more, like the Cadillac) than we bought them for.  You can't hate that!

My favorite acquisition came in a $1 bag of old books.  At the end of a flea market up in Idyllewild, California on a camping trip, we could fill bags with anything and pay just $1 a bag.  I headed straight for the old books.  As we drove home, I started looking more carefully at my books and found one was from the library of Cecil B. DeMille!  It isn't worth much to anyone else, but it makes a great story and I really enjoyed reading it.  It's entitled, "The Revolt of Modern Youth" and was published in 1925.  Very interesting!

Maintain Your Standards and Still Save Money:  I jokingly say that I'm cheap, but I'm really not.  I do have my standards.  I don't buy food products at garage sales unless it's a lemonade sold by entrepreneurial kids.  I may be a bargain addict; but I never buy used drugs or cosmetics.  I never buy used things for gifts, unless the receiver enjoys antiques.  Oh, dear, did I say, "never?"  I picked up a whole box of beautiful, hand-crafted wooden Christmas ornaments.  I placed them into three separate bags and saved them for each of the kids' first Christmas as a married couple.

Consider buying gifts (new ones!) throughout the year.  This is great for gifts to be given to grown family members and friends.  Children are harder to do this with, since their likes and dislikes change so often.  I shop at sales and purchase gifts for birthdays and Christmas all year round.  This not only provides for overall savings, but it doesn't put such a burden on our holiday budget and it saves a lot of time.  By the way, I have picked up some nice quality gift wrap, bags and cards at a number of garage sales.  That saves much more than you can imagine!

Save at Swap Meets:  In our area swap meets have changed over the years.  They used to be like giant garage sales with almost anything you could imagine.  Now, they've become big business and are more like strip mall shopping.  The same vendors are there week after week and, though prices may be less than retail, you need to be cautious.  Unlike outlet stores, these vendors have purchased items in large quantities and they aren't always as particular about their reputations as larger retailers are.  Swap meets can be fun to attend.  Always get there early and be prepared to do lots of walking. 

Many items aren't marked, so be ready to ask and bargain on everything!  Many of these vendors love the sport of the deal.  Check out each aisle before you buy.  Sometimes the same merchandise is being sold at other booths for less.

Save at Auctions:  Cal and I owned a Goods and Services Auction business that benefited the nonprofit community.  If a charitable organization is planning an auction, you can offer to get something donated and go bid on it yourself.  Everybody wins.  The merchant gains community exposure, the nonprofit organization makes money and you'll probably make your purchase for much less than the retail price.  Sometimes, however, items do sell for more than retail because the audience is supporting the organization.  To save you money, this technique works best on unique or specialized items.  That generally reduces competition on the bidding.

There are all kinds of auctions.  Real estate, art, antiques, junk, office equipment, and automobiles are auctioned on a regular basis.  School districts, police departments, cities and other government agencies hold auctions all the time.  EBay and other Internet sites are another fun way to buy or sell things.  Check the appendix for further information on auctions.  Be sure to be prepared with proper payment.  Some require cash, while others require cashier's checks just to obtain a bidding number.  Always go prepared, so you aren't disappointed.  Also be sure you know the conditions of the sale.  Many times your sale will be final -- no returns, no refunds.  Most of the time you will be buying the items "as is."  Know the price range of the items you will bid on.  If you're not sure, set a maximum figure in your own mind and stick to it.  Auction bidding can be very contagious, which could be costly in terms of dollars.  In other words, control yourself.

Be particularly cautious at auto auctions.  We recently attended our first one.  Some cars didn't even start and those that did were started only.  You couldn't test drive them or even see if the transmission worked.  This could result in major repair costs on your otherwise "great deal."  Some were from a towing yard and had no keys.  That is an additional expense to consider.  Also be sure you know about any tax, licensing or other fees that might be added to your final purchase costs.  We recommend you go and watch the first time and take your money only if you feel comfortable.  Many times used car dealers will be bidding against you.  The prices may not be as good as you would expect.  Just go with your eyes open and listen to the Holy Spirit for guidance.


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Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood! - Pre-Owned, Used, Secondhand Savings

The following is an excerpt from the book Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood! by V. Jeanne Gormick.

Save By Buying Secondhand:  Thrift, resale and consignment shops have popped up everywhere and smart parents are now discovering them.  Visit on a regular basis to check out new merchandise as it comes in.  Get onto email lists, so you'll know when a sale is coming up.  Watch for broken buttons or zippers and decide if they can easily be repaired.  Pass it up, if it looks too difficult to fix.  Don't forget that items such as strollers, playpens, with car seats, toys, etc., need to be checked to be sure all the moving parts work correctly and that they meet current government safety standards.  For safety reasons purchasing new simply makes more sense, especially in car seats.  Some automotive stores and hospitals have great prices on them and don't forget to check your wholesale outlets and the Internet.  I still remember visiting my mother years ago and the only car seat she could find for our son, Todd was one that sat draped over the front seat of the car (obviously from the '50s).  Safety was obviously not a consideration, when that one was built!  I suppose today it might even be considered a valuable collector's item.

Some Secondhand Cautions and Ideas:  If you are buying anything from a second-hand store, take the same precautions you would at a garage sale.  Unlike garage sales, consignment stores sometimes offer lay away plans.  Be sure to check it out.  Consignment shops offer an opportunity not only to purchase, but also to sell or do a little of both!  I loved the ones for children's clothing, especially when one of the boys needed a suit.  I'd buy it for, maybe $15; use it and resell it in the same shop for 20% less.  It ended up costing me $3.00.  Generally, the clothing in consignment shops is of higher quality, whether you are looking for children's clothing or adult clothing.  Magnificent evening dresses, brand name work suits and beautiful maternity wear offered at some consignment shops can stretch even the most modest of budgets and make you feel really special.  There are tremendous bargains to be had around every corner.  You just need to know where to look.  

Garage Sale Shopping:  Garage sale participation really began to increase as an obsession as our kids grew out of their baseball and soccer games.  Suddenly our Saturdays were free.  Yes, there is life after Little League!  We had extra time on our hands, so we just headed out for trouble.  No sleeping late on Saturdays for us.  Bright and early we hit the garage sale trail.  Our addiction has gone so overboard that we actually got it down to a science.  I'm here to convince all of you of the wisdom of what I call "ultimate recycling"!

One Saturday, when our adult son, Tim didn't have to work it was just like Christmas morning.  He couldn't wait to "get on the road!"  He brought us our coffee and encouraged us to hurry, before the bargains were all gone.  What have we done!  Oh, what have we done!

Later Tim, actually started a business selling garage sale finds on Ebay.

When our son, Todd headed off to his own college apartment, he learned the value of garage sale buying.  Within a month Todd had a great wooden dinette set for $35; a sleeper sofa for $25; a couch for $50; 2 bar stools (which I recovered for him) for $12; and a wooden parquet coffee table and end table for $40.  When was the last time you furnished a home for under $200?  Admittedly, that was some 30 years ago, but second hand finds can still save you lots of money. He had enough left to buy a brand new mattress!  (As a matter of policy, we don't buy mattresses at garage sales!)  Our adult daughter, Julie, wasn't as dedicated to participating in these weekend endeavors, but when she moved out she picked up a nice leather chair for $25.  The rest of her stuff she got from friends.

Buying at Estate Sales:  Cal and I generally prefer garage sales to estate sales.  Estate sales are often conducted by a third party who will be paid a percentage of the sale.  Prices tend to be higher and may not be as negotiable, since you are not dealing with the owner and the selling agency takes a percentage of what is sold.  On the other hand, estate sales can produce some beautiful furnishings and antiques.  A lot depends upon what you are looking for.

Cal's Important "50% Rule": Cal always used this at garage sales.  In negotiating price he started with an offer 50% less than the marked or asked for price.  Many times sellers just want to get rid of the thing so much that they agree right on the spot.  Other times, they continue the negotiation and the price comes up from there.  Sometimes they refuse to budge.  At that point you must decide how much you really want the item.  Cal's 50% Rule saved him an incredible amount of money.  He loved applying it.  Bargaining is so much fun.  This kind of negotiation and bargaining is commonplace in other countries.  Now you, too, can enjoy the sport of it without even leaving this great country of ours.


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Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood! - Saving Money

The following is an excerpt from the book Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood! by V. Jeanne Gormick.

On Groceries:  I planned my food menu around what was on sale and items for which I had coupons or other discounts.  Today coupons and other money saving tricks are also available on the Internet for those of you who are technologically advanced.  

I start in the paper and ad flyers looking for good deals on items I will use over the month or put up for storage.  We live in California, so I include boxed drinks, bottled water, and other earthquake preparedness food along with my storage items.  I have a freezer in the garage, which we picked up second hand for $75 several years ago.  This allows me to stock up on frozen foods.  Remember to rotate your stockpiled food, so it's always fresh.

By Growing A Garden:  If you don't have the black thumb I was born with, a recent article suggests another idea..."While many gardeners today cite great taste and avoiding chemicals as reasons to grow their own food, there is another important reason:  It's cheaper.  Even with the toil and time spent, typically five or six hours a week after the garden is planted--gardeners say they are genuinely saving money when they grow it themselves.  Keeping costs down in the garden, resulting in cheaper food than can be bought at the grocery store, is not difficult, they say."12 In the long run, your family will be healthier and you'll all spend less time in the doctor's office.  Besides, a garden can be used as an opportunity to teach science lessons.

By Stocking Up:  I used to stock up on cosmetics, shampoos, and over the counter medicines when they were on sale.  It is wise to try to set some extra money aside, so you can take advantage of bargain prices or great coupons to stock up for the future.  Be careful, however, not to purchase more medications than you can use before their expiration dates.

In Other Ways at the Grocery Store – Plan ahead. Organize your menus to make your shopping list.  Stick to the list and keep a running total as you shop. Never shop when you are hungry. Leave impulse buyers at home (sometimes this is Dad!)  It’s great to pay with cash. Avoid junk food. Go to the back of products on grocery shelves to get the farthest out dates for the freshest items. 

Interesting fact my mother once taught me if you are a cheese lover.  If the label says “cheese food”, it may look like real cheese, but it’s not!

Periodically check your pantry for main dishes and be creative. Think eggs for dinner once in a while. They are less expensive than cuts of meat. Order groceries online to avoid impulse buying. Check out apps on your phone and shop the perimeter of the store to avoid costly processed foods.

I used to save even more on groceries through rebates:  This involved getting a few dollars back and sometimes free merchandise or additional coupons simply by purchasing an item and then sending in a refund form with the required packaging.  As a refunder, I also searched the papers for sale prices on items I might need to complete a refund deal. This has changed considerably since I raised our kids. 

Today, try Googling Krazy Coupon Lady and other rebate apps.  

Back in the day I used to take refunding even further by saving all the packages from name brand items for the next refund offer that presented itself.  To store these I bought an old file cabinet for $5.00 at a school district auction.  My cabinet was in a shed in the back yard, but it could also go in a garage, an attic or a basement.  Several members of my refunding club (yes, there are other compulsive savers out there!) used free orange and apple packing boxes from the produce department.  I arranged my packaging files by product categories the same way I arranged my coupons.  The entire box or package should be saved, so you can send in exactly what the manufacturer requires.  They keep refunders (that's us) hopping by requiring different portions for different refund offers.  Sometimes it is the "Proof of Purchase" or the UPC (that funny looking computer gobbledygook).  It might be an entire side panel or something else.  They always seem to want us to work for whatever we get back!

I also kept all my grocery receipts, filed by date, in a plastic bag.  Most manufacturers require a dated receipt.  The family was trained to save all brand name packages by putting them on the counter instead of throwing them away.  When the kids were little, I used to trade the packaging, grocery receipts, and forms with others in the refunding club.  One gal was so organized that she had computerized all her packaging and would bring a printed list to our monthly meetings.  We could check our needs against her list and then trade with her.

I know this seems like a very time consuming venture, but you'd be surprised at how much we all saved on our groceries.  Besides, we all brought our kids so they had a little monthly play group while we saved our families money.  One member set aside the one and two dollar refunds she received for her baby's education.  The baby was three, when I left the club and she had already purchased several thousand dollars in savings bonds for him.  She had made refunding a career and it was working!  I used to put the money I saved on my grocery receipts by using coupons (the red part of the receipt) directly into the bank.  I did this because I remembered a comment made by my 8th grade math teacher, Mrs. Bentley.  She said you really never "saved" money, unless you put the savings into a bank account.  Thank-you, Mrs. Bentley.  Over the years those savings have come in handy!

By Saving With Neighborhood Food Co-ops:  Many young families are now involved with food co-ops.  Though we never joined one, mothers who participated seemed very pleased by their savings.  I recently spoke with one mother from Maine who is thinking of making her participation into a business.  She's discovered that some mothers don't like taking time to go to the warehouse and order their own products.  She's been doing it for them and taking a percentage off the top.  Her sixteen year old son sometimes helped her.  Perhaps a young entrepreneur is about to be born!?! 

By Trying A Cooking Co-op:  An interesting twist on food co-ops is a cooking co-op.  An article I found, "How to Start a Cooking Co-op" described neighbors who got together to create a cooking co-op in their neighborhood.  This saved money for each household, because they cooked in quantity.  The result was a money saver, a time saver and each family was treated to a wide variety of great home cooked food.  This could easily be duplicated within a church.

Are You Pregnant Or Have A Baby?  Nursing your baby is much less expensive in addition to being healthier for the baby.  I just priced baby formula at Walmart for $35.98 for a 28.3 oz “value can.”  Dr. Hugh Stallworth's "To Your Health" column in the Orange County Register indicates that, "many women find breast feeding actually takes less time and allows them to rest more."  He continues, "Breast milk requires no preparation; it is always at the right temperature and pure.  A mother gets to sit and rest when she nurses.  Parents who use artificial baby milk must shop for supplies, prepare formulas in bottles, store everything correctly and clean up.  Human milk is easily digested, contains antibodies that help fight infection, and has all the nutrients required for growth and development."

Another article "A Gift From Mothers, to Mothers" indicates, "Breast milk has been called nature's most perfect food.  Medical knowledge on exactly how it helps infants develop is still emerging, but doctors know that human milk is more easily digested than formula by some babies with fragile gastrointestinal systems.  Human milk also contains some proteins, which cannot be artificially produced, to help prevent infection.  'Human milk is the best choice,' says Nitin Mehta, a neonatologist at Georgetown.  Whenever possible I try to use human milk, especially for premature infants...We try to get mothers to pump their own milk.  If that's not possible, we have donor milk.'"

Clearly, your milk is God's perfect food for your little baby.  He created it just for your baby.  Working moms can express their own milk for the baby, but it can become a very tiresome activity unless you can afford a breast pump.  Is this another good incentive to be home with your own little baby?

If you do choose to express your milk, another article suggests that you make the appropriate arrangements at your workplace.  "Ask other mothers if they pumped at your workplace and what facilities they were able to use.  If you're comfortable raising the issue with your boss, ask him or her for help.  Otherwise, inquire at the personnel office." Be sure to refrigerate the expressed milk, so it will remain the best possible quality food for your little one.

For further information about breast feeding, please contact your local La Leche League.  Your doctor or hospital should be able to provide you with information.

Saving at Wholesale Stores:  Wholesale stores like Costco or Sam's Club in our area, offer things at substantially less cost, but there is also a science to shopping wholesale stores.  Never buy more than you can use, especially in perishable goods.  Consider going in together with a friend to split the cost (and the savings).  It's like an informal food co-op.  I still remember a mass purchase made by my husband, Cal on some kind of hair stuff he loved.  His hairstyle went out of fashion way before he used it all up!  Even things like canned foods don't last forever, especially if you have hot spells in your area.

Warehouse stores sell larger quantities of things you might use every day for less money per item, but wasting food never saves you money...so be cautious!

Overcoming Storage Problems:  Storage of bulk purchases of even nonperishable foods may appear to be a problem at first glance, until you consider every unused space in your home.  I still use the top shelf of my linen closet for canned goods, cereals, packaged items, shampoos, etc.  Don't forget shelves in kids' closets and the space under everyone's bed.  It might even make cleaning your kids' rooms easier.  That sounds like a plan to me!  Clutter need not be a problem in your quest to save every last penny!  Pasta, rice and flour can be stored in your freezer, which also helps prevent those pesky little black bugs.  I guess they don't like the cold.

Always Price Compare:  Check prices, even at wholesale outlets.  Check unit pricing to be sure buying in bulk makes sense.

Buying at Outlet Stores:  Look into outlet stores.  Generally located in outlying areas, the drive can be worth it.  Take some friends and make a day of it.  Avoid spending a lot on lunch, though.  Why not plan to brown-bag it, since the real purpose is saving money?  You never know what you'll find, so do your market research shopping before venturing out.  Get an idea of the prices on similar brand name items in department stores or check prices on your phone.  Be an informed shopper at all times!  Some of the merchandise may not be first quality and your purchases might not be returnable.  Ask lots of questions, until you are satisfied that you know what you are buying.  Try everything on.  Be sure gifts won't pose a problem for the recipient, because they can't be returned or exchanged.  Be careful not to go hog wild just  because everything is discounted.  Go through Cal's Bargain Hunting Secrets in Chapter 10 before you make a final purchase.  I've found that if you appreciate name brand items (I don't!), you can actually obtain substantial savings if you go in as an informed consumer.


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Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood! - Make Money by Spending Less

The following is an excerpt from the book Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood! by V. Jeanne Gormick.

To be successful in your pursuit to stay home and raise your own children--to watch their games, lessons and recitals, i.e., be involved parents*, you'll probably need to find ways to save money.  Start by living within your means, working with the money you do have (or will have left when you leave your job.)  When you make your money go farther, you need less of it.  

We've all heard the saying, "A penny earned, is a penny saved."  Remember that you aren't taxed on the money you save.  In John 6:12 Jesus is pretty clear... "When they had all had enough to eat, he said to his disciples, 'Gather the pieces that are left over. Let nothing be wasted.'"    You had been helping provide income for your family.  Now that's gone.  Don't worry! Your "means" have simply changed.  You really can make it!

Researcher, Bill Danko, doing a study on millionaires comes up with this advice:  "'Live below your means.'  By setting aside 15% of after-tax income for savings, forgoing some luxuries and investing wisely, almost anyone can become a millionaire over the course of a working life."

Learn to buy only what you absolutely need and wait for prices to come down on the other stuff!  Do everything you can to wipe out what Dr. James Dobson calls "the disease of materialism."

Spend Less by Cutting Expenses:  Saving money on groceries, buying second hand furniture, recycling children's clothing and purchasing other things at garage sales can help you reduce expenses in an attempt to stay at home with your children.

*Though I am mostly writing to mothers, it is critical that both parents be involved with their children.  Rabbi Daniel Lavin explains, "A profound insight to reality is disclosed by there being no singular word in Hebrew for 'parent.'  The word horim, only exists in the plural.  An individual is a mother or a father, an individual can valiantly try to fill both roles, but being parents is possible only for a couple."11 


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Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood! - Why You Should Stay Home

The following is an excerpt from the book Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood! by V. Jeanne Gormick.

In The Working Mother's Guide to Sanity, Elsa Houtz reminds us, that "what we are doing is important because God has given us the task of preparing a new generation for life." 

Raising our future leaders takes men and women who will seek the Lord to help them with their families.  It takes an act of will to make our homes into sanctuaries of the Lord.  We must be diligent in our walk with God.  It was only through my own search for the Lord and then growth with Him that produced the family we have today.

Keep in mind that parental rule in the family is actually a symbol of God's authority.  "If children are not taught to obey their parents, they often find it difficult to obey God.  If their rebellion is not curbed early in life, they will continue to rebel against all authority.  Children must have their will broken, but not their spirit." If children are left to their own, they won't accept God's authority in their lives.

There are other important reasons to consider how your children will be raised and by whom.  A Guidelines for Living article on marriage issues the following warning to parents, "Dr. Urie Bronfenbrenner, a noted authority on family living, sees a definite relationship between juvenile delinquency and troubled behavior among children, and an absent mother whose presence is taken from the home because of her job."

Evaluating The Real Cost of Returning to (or Remaining at) Work:  Remember that things like work clothes, cosmetics, hair/nail care, dry cleaning, transportation, eating out, purchasing convenience foods, child care, etc., all reduce your income.  Your tax bracket may also change, taking a huge chunk out of your hard-earned income.  Your family may even be denied certain home loan programs or college scholarships for your children because of your income.  Qualifying income amounts do not always reflect your usable "take-home" pay.  These loans and scholarships can add up to thousands of untaxed dollars.  Then, there is the unknown cost of lost nurturing to your children.  It might surprise you that your final salary isn't really worth the price. 

Find a calculator online to help you determine if you can afford to give up your job and stay home to raise your own child.

One Mother's Story:  This young mother went through a struggle similar to mine.  She says it best, 

"My husband had always been used to me working and bringing in at least as much money as he did.  It was very strange, though, that we never had anything to show for it.  This is when I learned that it isn't how much money you make, it's what you do with the money you have.  I really struggle a lot because I had been used to having my own money to spend.  I was afraid to let my husband be in control of the finances.  I didn't feel that I could trust him.  What I didn't realize was, that by having a job and taking care of the money, I was robbing him of his self-esteem.  I wasn't letting him be the head of the family.  I had to learn to be content where I was and let God take care of my needs.  I realized that if we could not live on what my husband made, we were living beyond our means."

The Truth About Working Mothers:  The Working Mother's Guide To Sanity by Elsa Houtz has important gems of wisdom for working mothers, but her common sense attitudes are valuable for all mothers.  Stay at home moms, mothers with a homebased business, mothers working outside the home, single moms, married moms, mothers of just one child and mothers with many children all face stress and pressure in rearing their children.  Houtz makes a good point.  "... the expression 'working mother' is so odd.  Being a mother is work, period.  It's happy work, sad work, satisfying work, exasperating work, tiring work, energizing work--but it's definitely work."

I think Houtz's comparison between the woman's job at work and her job as a mother is interesting.  "Of the two, the one for which we receive a paycheck is probably the easier one.  The rules are pretty clear.  There's someone there to tell us how to do the job.  We know what time to show up and when to go home.  When we make a mistake, we find out right away, and there are ways of gauging how well we're doing; we don't have to wait 15 years to find out whether we did a good job or not.  Either we get a raise or we don't.  Either the contract is renewed or it isn't.  Either our annual review is positive or it's not.  Pretty simple compared to motherhood, isn't it?"

I know this had a lot to do with my decision to run away to the job market and then to start my own business.  It was clearly an attempt to escape from motherhood.  Houtz goes on to explain the reality of an outside career, "The perks, the strokes, the recognition, and the paycheck can all be awfully appealing, especially on a day when your 13-year-old daughter says she hates you, your dog has to go to the veterinarian, and the plumber has had the water in your house turned off for two days.  Motherhood is not an easy job; in fact, if you're like (Houtz and me), your job outside the home is probably infinitely easier and more manageable than your job at home."

I love this gal!  She confirms what I've been saying all along...relax.  "Let's be more reasonable about our expectations of ourselves.  If we know there's no way we can pick up that suit at the cleaners, let's say so and make some other arrangement.  If we snap at a child or spouse, let's apologize to them and then forgive ourselves, knowing it's bound to happen from time to time.  If the house isn't straight out of Better Homes and Gardens all the time, so be it.  Let's set some priorities we are comfortable with and stop criticizing ourselves for our failures."

Houtz has a chapter entitled, "The Three G's: Guilt, Guilt, Guilt."  She explains them as "I-Should-Be-Doing-Something-Else Guilt"; "But-I'mSuperhuman-Guilt"; and "No-Win-Guilt."  

Sound familiar?  As I said, you don't have to be a working mother to relate to her book.


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Stop Doing Things The Way Others Do!
Stay at Home Parenthood is Awesome!

Stay at Home Parenthood is Awesome!

Parents…

Blaze your own path!

Are the values you hold as a parent important for you to pass on to your children?

Let’s explore the importance of values.

“Values are very important in parenting since they deeply influence all behaviors and attitudes and effect our decisions and relationships.” 

The Center for Parenting Education - A resource to help parents do the best job they can to raise their children

 

“There are two ways that families influence values and expectations of their children: directly and indirectly. Parents directly teach their children values. ... Children watch their parents interact with others, make choices and determine right and wrong for themselves, and this impacts how they develop their moral self.”

How does family influence values and expectations? | eNotes

 If your children are being raised by someone else, they are watching those people and will develop lifelong values learned at the hands of others.

But if children spend more quality time with you, you have a much better chance to instill your precious values in your own children.

So…

Are you or your spouse tired of the corporate world?

Do you dislike your boring 9 – 5 job?

Are you ready to be different and make a big difference for your family?

If you are concerned that dropping down to a single income will make this impossible, check out Quit Your Job! You Really Can Afford Stay at Home Parenthood where I share my best money-saving tips and suggestions for possible homebased business ownership. 

You really can live frugally and thrive and continue to live the comfortable lifestyle you desire for your family with the tips, tricks and simple ways to save money and make money which are included in this important resource.

These tips are proven!

Or consider my Group Mentoring Tribes where you can collaboratively explore options to chart a new path for your family. With the help of others within either a Stay at Home Mom or a Stay at Home Dad Tribe, you can discuss and consider solutions for better family management. They become a Board of Directors for your family! Encouragement and accountability abound in these groups.

Participants are led by a talented, experienced facilitator to allow everyone to share and have a voice.

Find out more at www.jeannegormick.com.

Jeanne Gormick
How To Remain Professional From Your Home Office

Suddenly Doing Business From Home!!!!

Suddenly Doing Business From Home!!!!

How To Remain Professional From Your Home Office

We are experiencing a very different season right now because of the Corona Corid 19 Virus. Everyone around the world is isolating within their homes.  Children and animals are suddenly under foot, while parents try to work from home. I hope I can make a few helpful suggestions to help you get through this very difficult time.

You need to find a place to create your workspace. Suggestions for setting up a home office on the fly includes looking for the quietest place in your home. Some quick ideas might include emptying a closet, laundry room, storage room, garage or basement or even using an extra bathroom as an impromptu office! 

This is only temporary, so be creative. 

If it’s impossible to avoid the shouts of children, barking dogs, shrieking birds, flushing toilets and what-have-you; and you absolutely must make phone calls, consider going outside and away from these noises. Avoiding phone calls and using texts and emails is the first solution.

However, remote online meetings can be a different story.  While muting a microphone can help if you are not hosting a meeting, things are different if you are actually trying to host it. As the host, it might be helpful to schedule the meeting at the same time that kids are doing their online school or schedule the kids’ school time around your meeting. 

Spouses, older siblings and others in the household can help you, too. You might even be able to send “the noise” outside! But always remember to train your children to stay 6 feet away from others when they go outside. You might send them outside with some sort of adult supervision, if possible. Keep everyone safe!

As crazy as this seems, those of us who are used to being homebased in our businesses all recommend that you get up and get dressed just as if you were headed to the office.  This will help you psychologically prepare yourself for your workday.

Overall, this is a very difficult time for everyone, so I think most people will be tolerant if they do happen to hear some strange workplace noises.

For further suggestions please take a look at my recently released book See Dick and Jane Start a Homebased Business, now available on Amazon.com. https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B085XQSP2K&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_tILHEbDKJCYED I hope you find it helpful.

If you just have questions, please visit my website at https://www.jeannegormick.com and click on the Free Consultation button.  I would be happy to help you get through this in any way I can. I raised 3 kids in a homebased office environment, so I might be able to help.

Everyone stay safe!

Survival Techniques for Kids While Sheltering in Place
 
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If you are a parent who NEVER planned to homeschool or be a stay at home parent, everything has changed with Covid 19 (the Corona Virus.)  But you know that already!

I have seen co-workers scrambling to get childcare or trying to figure out how to effectively work from home.

I wanted to help everyone in some small way as we are facing a new world. 

So, I consulted my grandkids for their ideas. I did some research and this is what I came up with. I sincerely hope you find it helpful…

For the littles, I’d start with this fun recipe for flub, AKA slime! My kids made it way back in preschool.          

  1. Put cornstarch into mixing bowl.

  2. Begin adding water slowly.

  3. Optional: Mix in glitter for a colorful craft.

  4. Mix with hands until the mixture is smooth.

  5. Continue adding water until you have achieved your desired consistency.

  6. Store in a plastic bag or airtight container.

Another great idea, which my kids always loved doing, was building forts in the living room.  Give them all the sheets and blankets you can find and enjoy their creativity. You can give them a deck of cards or age appropriate board games.  Older kids can read to younger siblings inside the forts with flashlights.

Some other ideas for them:  Play Simon Says or I Spy; write letters to grandparents or other relatives; play dress-up;  make a sock puppet;  make-up new rules to an existing game or make up their own;  bake something; help make meals; or have fun making dessert for dinner. My mother would occasionally make strawberry shortcake for Sunday supper.

If cabin fever can’t be avoided, it’s OK to go outside. So take a hike; make sandcastles at the beach (6 feet away from one another); take a road trip with food inside the car; lay down on the ground and watch the clouds; walk the neighborhood; watch birds; have a backyard picnic; grow something;  ride a bike (without getting too close to friends); blow bubbles; paint rocks; wash cars; have a water gun fight; or as a twist, offer to walk a neighbor’s dog!    

Whatever you end up doing, take advantage of this opportunity to get to know your kids better and just enjoy each other.

To avoid boredom in your teens, there are so many things that you might even have fun doing too. Once they have finished their online homework, then go ahead and give them unlimited access to their electronic devices.  I’m the first one to emphasize discipline, but these are extraordinary times!

My granddaughter suggested Snap Chat which is great for making funny faces to share. Tik Tok allows them to make videos. If they are very social Houseparty Face Time works for sharing with up to 8 friends. They might already know about these, but if not you can become their hero!

My grandsons love to play Fortnight and my son gets involved in it too.  Though it can be addictive, we have to make allowances, since we really have no idea how long this season will last. Though we are all going to need to recover from being extra close to our families, I’d like to think that this will bring our families closer together too.

I hope I’ve helped at least some of you that everyone stays healthy with safe sanitary practices and this difficult season is over soon.

Is A Homebased Business Right for You?
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My Mother in the Early 20th Century Outside My Grandather’s Homebased Office

Today 50% of all businesses in the U.S. are homebased and having a homebased business is certainly enticing for many reasons, but let’s see if you will find success with a business in your home.

Some businesses are certainly more conducive to being in a home environment than others. Factors like having customers coming and going or having employees could make being homebased impossible. Cities and neighbors usually discourage this for various reasons.

In my soon-to-be released book, See Dick and Jane Start a Homebased Business, you will find several details to help decide whether or not a homebased location is right for you.  It also provides a step by step method to set up and run a successful operation from your home.

Lets view some things to consider. These include being personally disciplined and being able to set effective boundaries for yourself, your family and your friends and neighbors.

Since family may be one of the main reasons you are thinking of a business in your home, let’s explore that first. Your family must be behind your decision. A supportive spouse is also critical to business success.

Do you have children? Depending upon their ages they can be trained to respect your business needs.

When our kids were old enough to answer the phone, we had so intimidated them that they refused to touch the business phone. Cell phones and texting are really helpful these days.

Depending upon the business, you might even be able to hire them to help in the business. Our kids were very active in our family FUNdraising business from a young age.

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Daughter Julie and Son Todd Helping Their Dad Identify Winning Bidders

After the birth of our third child, I hired a gal to do light housecleaning and get the baby when he woke up.

If you start when they are young, they will grow to understand the difference between Mommy time and business time. If you can effectively schedule your work hours, even family chaos can be controlled. Balance is the key. Plan to spend undivided, quality time with family (even if you have to schedule it) and they will respect your dedicated business time.

My first homebased job was making evening market research calls. My husband would put the kids to bed, so I could work for a couple of hours each night.

Family is probably the most important thing to consider before branching out.

Though your family needs to respect your business time, you must also set some personal boundaries.  You must learn to set household chore boundaries.  Basically if you treat your work hours as you would for any other job, you will be successful. Leave your office work only for short breaks and meals. Learn to ignore vacuuming, laundry, dishes piling up, etc. and don’t go watch TV in the middle of the day!

It is probably important to evaluate your personality at this point. Are you an effective time manager? Can you set goals and accomplish them? Can you overlook the household responsibilities that you see when you take your break?  If this is a difficulty you may not be a good candidate for a home office.

 Location of your office is also an important consideration for many reasons. There may be tax advantages based on it’s location and usage, but be sure to get advice from your tax professional before going further. As I understand it, if your office is never used for any purpose other than for business you should be fine.

As the kids grew up and needed their own separate bedrooms, we moved the washer and dryer to the garage and my office was located in the 8 x 10 laundry room for years. It was even featured in an article in the local newspaper.   


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Wherever you locate the office, lack of privacy can become a problem. Household noises, interruptions and family demands may need to be addressed, since it is very important to present a professional image. Ringing doorbells, barking dogs, fighting kids, etc. are not conducive to that professional image. However, once these things are handled I personally think a home office is far superior to being in a company cubicle.

Other ways to improve your professional image include changing the statements you make.  For instance, instead of saying, “I’ll call you when I get home.” Try saying, “I’ll call you when I get back to the office.”  It is the subtle things that will make the difference. If brochures and collateral will be used be sure they are of the highest quality possible. Also dress for success.  Even if you won’t be seeing clients on a particular day, it will help your professional image attitude if you conduct office business in something other than your bathrobe! It’s a psychological thing.

Feeling isolated can sometimes be a problem. Though you may be behind a computer most of the time, Playing background music can help. You will probably have to do some sort of marketing to bring clients to the business. If that’s the case, joining a Chamber of Commerce or Business Club will help with isolation, improve your professional image and your business will grow.  If most of your business is done on the computer, occasionally take your laptop to a coffee shop for a change of scenery. Once you have thought through these considerations, you can begin to acknowledge the many benefits of a home business.

For a start you can…

* SAVE ON EXPENSES by no longer commuting and eating lunch out

* SAVE TIME by not commuting, giving you more time with family and friends

* Explore TAX SAVINGS

* LOWER OVERHEAD - no additional rent, utilities, internet, etc.

Once you understand the disadvantages and advantages of owning a homebased business, you are ready to successfully proceed.

Jeanne Gormick