HEAD - what do you need on a practical level - Where do you want to live, want kids? Discuss, parenting, family life, pets, finances, retirement plans, politics, religion - spiritual intimacy, education, health and fitness, vacation styles, etc. These are all easier with early discussions.

HEART – what do you need on an emotional level? Evaluate the level of engagement when you talk to that person. Watch their sense of humor, communication style, mutual admiration. Trust is developing thru emotional intimacy. You both need to feel safe, seen, and understood.

(MY NOTE meaningful relationships require trust and trust is built over time.)

HEAT – what do you need on a physical level Looks, age, sex appeal, weight, height, style, physical intimacy preferences, compatibility – it’s about chemistry